Monday, April 28, 2008

Culture Change—It’s about Relationships

A couple of months ago a colleague sent an email asking the team what “relationship” meant to us. I spend considerable time educating on the importance of relationships, so, I was surprised when I hesitated before shooting back a quick and easy explanation. I really gave thought to her question. What does it mean to have a true relationship? What are the basic needs of a relationship? What clicks between people who are close? I’m not talking about romantic relationships here, but, those deeply satisfying personal connections that are so important to our over-all well being. Let me share a portion of the email in which I responded to her inquiry.

“When I open up and give of myself, it means the other person has earned my trust. If I develop a relationship with someone, I believe that sharing ‘me’ is safe. Conversely, I want to make sure the other person trusts and feels safe with me and that I never do anything to destroy their trust and feeling of safety.

That said, part of trust and safety involves compassionate honesty. When a true relationship has been formed, neither party is put off by compassionate honesty because they know their best interest, their personal growth, their professional growth and/or spiritual growth can only happen with that feedback.

I believe we respond and reveal ourselves in varying degrees depending on the type of relationship we are involved in. There are pieces of ourselves that we give depending on the type of relationship. A person only opens completely and shows their true and real self if they sense trust and safety (on both sides).”

Person-Centered Care requires a willingness to lay aside old ideas and beliefs. One of the first things we change is the way we interact with each other in the work place. Traditionally, we have intermingled with each other based on “position” or “level” within the organization and we interacted with residents from a stand-point of authority. Neither did much to advance trust and safety!

In the past, relationships were the last thing a company wanted because it was viewed as wasted employee time and led to unrest among the “troops.” I remember going through Leadership Training as a young Director of Nursing. We were told never be friendly with staff and NEVER socialize with them. The rationale was that discipline was a large part of the position and it was impossible to provide necessary and needed discipline if we were friendly. The belief at that time was that staff must be disciplined frequently and harshly.

I remember also that the instructor spent significant time explaining why a nurse should never have a relationship with a patient. We were taught never to address a patient by their first name even if they ask us to, not to discuss personal affairs with them and never to ask them a question personal in nature. The rationale? A nurse needed to be objective and with personal relationships, objectivity was lost.

Today we know that quality of care and quality of life for elders and job satisfaction for the team is all about relationships. It’s time to lay aside these old beliefs and build productive and satisfying relationships among elders and within the team. How do we begin to do this? 1) Get to know each person 2) Build an environment that is based in trust and safety 3) Embrace diversity and individuality 4) Allow people to contribute and become involved. When we view staff and residents as complete individuals it is impossible to interact with them in the same old non-relational way.

--Teresa McCann, Senior Consultant & Director of Development

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

An Aging Quote to Smile About


"Beautiful young people are accidents of nature,
but beautiful old people are works of art."

Eleanor Roosevelt
1884—1962

Friday, April 18, 2008

Culture Change: A Consultant’s Experience

“We don’t need no stinking Culture Change!” “We didn’t get any deficiencies that were important. “It’s not something that is mandated by the State!” “Did you hear the one about the Consultant?”

My first visits to a senior living home were met with these comments. The thing I respected most was the fact that I knew right away where I stood. There was no guesswork, no anticipating an open environment, no attempt at detouring by fogging the conversations with pretense of schmoozing the consultant.

By virtue of being “A Consultant” one already has a strike against oneself. Pompous to assume that one knows so much as to be called into a situation to ‘tell’ others how to proceed in any given area. And CULTURE CHANGE! Might as well come bearing a scepter and a scroll and in a booming voice decree what is to be in an alien land. So much for being Queen for a day! That said, I listened to the comments, chuckled at the jokes, observed the body language which was hostile and closed and confrontational from everyone sitting in that room. And thought, yep, this is why I became a Consultant—to be admired for my experience, respected for my knowledge, liked as a passionate proponent of elder care, and to work with like minded individuals to move forward in providing the best of care. Talk about pompous! The wonderful thing I received from this situation was the ability to learn more than you could ever imagine from running into wall after wall.

Culture Change…it isn’t simply “doing.” It is about becoming: Live it and it becomes.

It should be such a simple thing—bring relationships and individualized care to a home. It should just be a natural extension of a life and those relationships that come into being from sharing an environment. But, people are people. Barriers and a false sense of control are difficult to dissolve. The idea that medical care is only one small component of a human being’s life and not the totality of that individual is for some reason threatening to some staff.

For some Administrators there is the fear of crossing regulatory boundaries and being “more open” for lawsuits. False thinking that “more control” is safer. Some nurses think that they “know better” and in wanting to “fix things” take away the individual’s right to live and make those choices that define themselves as persons—not as how they are viewed by others as a group or disease. Your more convoluted issues arise with the staff who need to define THEIR self worth by being overly involved in the decision making process for a resident. These are coming from perhaps a “caring” but misguided outlook.

Allow yourself to see the person first. The environment is an artificial placement, an extension of where the person is and not WHO the person is. They still own their own destiny. We must remind staff that this is the home of the resident and that we are lucky to be invited into their home and to be a part of their community.

To answer the many questions I received from staff relating to Culture Change, I did so over time. Words do little to affect Culture Change. Action and seeing the outcome is what brings programming, education, and Culture Change to life. Simply put, in my opinion, it is about Life—the “Big L,” life for the residents, their families, the teams and the community outside of the home. Those precious 24 hours in a day of communication with others and communing with one’s higher power, and with oneself is what it is really all about.

Take a moment and consider your co-workers, and all of the sub-cultures and all the experiences that you are relating with each day. Place them in the home setting and then each resident and family and their cultural, religious, and life experiences and you can understand where the fear and barriers can grow from. You can see how convoluted the dynamics can become. Culture Change removes the institution and creates a community from this diverse population.

Culture Change provides an environment that is life affirming and accepting of this truth: All individuals are different while sharing some commonalities. It is making it home for and with the people who live there. It builds on the fundamentals of relationships, risks, choices, and creates an atmosphere of being with, not doing TO someone.

Removing the institution and creating home and community is an action. In home and community, staff interacts with, not controls the residents. Administrators listen to their residents and staff and interact. Families are allowed to interact and be a part of what makes up the home. The residents are the home. Community is what is created. To use that maxim referring to a different population, “It takes a village…”

Be a member of that village. Create that home and community.

Obviously, the group I worked with NEEDED Cultural Transformation. Not because I said so as their Consultant, but because their distrust of their own dynamics; the control they exercised vs. relating with the residents; the disallowing of personalities in their residents; forms of punishment for those they didn’t “like” or who “weren’t easy;” the medical sense of superiority vs. letting a resident be their own person and make their own choices; all of these elements were causing residents to be fearful of the staff and of the “nursing home” area. There were unhealthy dynamics with the residents in response to the staff control issues including acting out behaviors, increased falls, weight loss, incontinence, depression, and increased psychotropic use. The sense that a resident went there to die and never “got out” was pervasive. “Death’s Waiting Room” was the healthcare area’s nickname.

Deficiencies are easy to address as well: regulations are guidelines that one cannot go beneath. Just because a community meets the lowest criteria and passes a survey doesn’t mean that the standards are true quality. Raise the bar. Heck—open the bar! It is time to become what the standards shoot for, not to meet the lowest possible criteria. Create the atmosphere of life and your regulations will not only be met and become a natural part of the home, but the improved quality of life as staff focuses on building relationships with each resident will become stronger and make for better care and ultimately fewer problems.

As for mandated by the State? Humanizing programs are becoming mandated. But is that a reason for Culture Change? Doing the right thing shouldn’t have to be mandated. Individualizing the care, allowing choice, and creating a Community brings rise to a happier and more genuine environment, better dynamics and relationships, healthier residents, lower staff turnover, is fiscally sound, and provides each person their own destiny. What is so radical about those qualities?

As for the jokes? Maybe some days my role is that of the Village Idiot, but I learned that not taking myself seriously but bringing humor to my passion for Culture Change was a big part of my personal journey in Culture Change itself!

  • Remember it takes time and action to assist in Culture Change
  • True change requires total team support and involvement—one person alone can’t effect change
  • When met with adversity ask questions, and keep in mind there is no “winning” but a possibility for knowledge and growth
  • Those that get on board in a community are your best cultivators for the positive “contagion” of change
  • Keep your humor and keep your focus
  • Remember that cultural transformation is like eating an elephant…one piece at a time
  • It is a process
By the way, did you hear the one about the Consultant???

Rhea L. Schneiders,

Associate Consultant and Educator

Wednesday, April 9, 2008

The Meaning of Home

Is it possible to make a nursing home feel like a true home?



We at the Institute for Caregiver Education know that it is possible.

Ask yourself the following:

What makes your house a "home"?
  • It is filled with your things
  • It is warm and comfortable
  • Your home is as far from a hospital-style setting as is possible
  • You can be yourself, and if that means wearing your robe until lunchtime, then so be it!
  • Your home has your thumb print on it.
We can help your organization create home for your elders. Just call us, (717-263-7766) and we'll start the Person-Centered Care conversation with you.

Tuesday, April 1, 2008

Model Kindness to your Residents . . .

and Your Colleagues will Practice It!

Any time we enter a new situation or new job, we want to fit in and be an integral part of that group. We begin to conform to the norms of that particular group. This is also true in societal groups and among peers. We begin to model the “accepted prevalent behaviors. We watch formal and informal leaders around us to see how they respond to situations. Once we are sure of the acceptable behavior, we can begin act accordingly to fit in. Before we know it, we have a whole team acting and behaving in the same way.

What would happen if we took the first step toward changing old accepted norms and begin to model a new kindness and attitude? There is a great TV commercial for a leading insurance company that shows one random act of kindness which is witnessed by another person who then performs their own random act of kindness which is seen by another and they go on to do a random act of kindness and so on and so on. It is actually called “paying it forward.” Could this really work for long term care? Being the perpetual optimist, I believe it can.

We often see a problem as being so big and pervasive that it is hard to fathom that one person can make a difference. I believe it only takes one person to start a chain of change. Once one person decides to make the effort to change, others will notice. Being an 80s girl, I feel certain that every girl in the country didn't decide to start teasing their bangs to the sky at the same time! One person took the risk and a whole generation of girls followed suite. Let this be the generation that takes the risk to model kindness to our residents.

Although I am the great optimist, I am not deluded enough to believe it will happen overnight. However, the modeled act of kindness repeated over and over will begin to be noticed by the team. The action may be ridiculed initially because some mock and disparage what they don’t understand or what they fear. Be the leader for change. Doing the right thing makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside. It is right for our residents and there is a certainty of action that comes with doing the right thing.

In the current environment of elder care there is a feeling of separation; an “us vs. them” attitude. As we work to create communities for our elders, we should model the same behavior that is important for us as we search for the right community in which to live. We want our neighbors and community to be kind, warm and accepting. Our residents deserve and want the same. It is my belief and experience that you get exactly what you give. Give kindness and proudly model your actions. Remember, people model the excepted behaviors of the organization. Take the risk, be the trendsetter and watch the change begin!

“People do what people see.” --Will Rogers

Teresa McCann

Senior Consultant/Director of Development